Men are known to be closed when it comes to their emotions. Unlike women who would readily talk about their feelings to their girl friends or even their neighbors, men often prefer to sort things out in their mind. So how would you deal with such a man?
If you want him to tell you everything be ready to understand him first.
This is probably the most important aspect of getting your guy to open up to you. Men are brought up that any outward emotion is a sign of weakness so don’t look down on him if he tries to open up to you.
Allow him to talk freely.
Don’t judge him when he tries to tell you something, don’t stop him either. Make the words flow smoothly and without interruption. Once he feels that he can share his deepest feelings to you, then he won’t hesitate to do it again the next time.
Know when to ask and when to shut up.
It’s all about having the right timing. There are times when a guy would be ready to share with you his innermost feelings and there are moments when he’d prefer to keep it to himself. If you’d be able to master when to gently coax him to talk then you’re a gifted person indeed, for very few women could actually do that.
Have ample time together.
How can a man open up to you if he’s not used to being together with you? Keep in mind that a man has to, primarily, feel comfortable with your presence before he’ll want to share any of his feelings.
Listening is a skill that you must acquire.
If you’re not a good listener (or if you talk too much), then you will definitely have a hard time in making a man open up to you. In order for your guy to share his deepest desires and secrets, you’ll need to have a good ear for listening.
Bringing up the past is a no-no.
Women are great at bringing up past mistakes and rubbing these on their guy’s face. Being in a relationship entails knowing how to forgive so be ready to give this to him. If you constantly point your fingers at him and judge him based on his past mistakes, then he’ll never want to open up to you – that’s certain!
You can be honest without being too vicious.
You can discuss things with him in all honesty but you should know how to control the way you lash out at him. In fact, there should be no lashing out involved. When you two talk, make sure that you’re always levelheaded and that you’re ready to listen and not just speak. After all, conversation must be two-way so be ready to give him the floor when it’s his time to share.